BABY AND CHILDHOOD ILLNESSES: TEMPER TANTRUMS
Considering the complexities of the life of a child, it is often amazing they do not lose their tempers more often! They are not born with self-control. They have to learn it. Temper is due to anger, plus a sense of insecurity, plus helplessness. Many children can cope extremely well, but others seem involved in ongoing outbursts most of their lives.
Often the child’s tantrums are a direct reflection of upbringing. In families with a high level of emotional disturbance, where fighting and personality clashes are the rule, the child is more likely to reflect this by being involved in rages far more often. A child who normally lives in a calm, relatively serene atmosphere will lend to reflect this and be much less likely to be involved in temper tantrums, breath-holding bouts, sulky periods and similar emotional states.
Treatment
Children are usually the product of their environment and upbringing. A serene home life will invariably produce a child with a calm mental outlook and a tendency to fly into rages far less often than one who lives in a family ridden with mental stress and turmoil.
Children live by example. If parents only realized this, it would greatly ease the burden of treatment. Yelling, screaming and shouting, hurling abuse and chastizing verbally or physically will seldom do much good for frayed tempers. Indeed, it will tend to worsen the situation. Bribery will be equally disastrous, for the child may soon learn the pecuniary value of temper tantrums, and lack of self-control will be inevitable.
Self-control by parents is the best example. Adults are able to do this, and in so doing they will inevitably benefit their children and their children’s attitudes. Being neither overindulgent nor over-strict is also good admonition.
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