ERECTION PROBLEMS: POTENCY AND STRESS
Some men aren’t aware that they suffer from stress and performance anxiety. Jimmy, a 24-year-old graduate student at a large university, visited a urologist, complaining that he was unable to get an erection. Like many students, Jimmy was juggling a lot of demands. He had a part-time job, a heavy class load and still made time for personal relationships. He was attractive and charming, so he had little trouble meeting women. The problem, he said, was that his relationships did not last. Occasionally, in a new relationship, Jimmy would become erect, but he usually lost potency before he could have intercourse.
A crucial piece of information came to light when Jimmy revealed that he could get satisfactory erections when he masturbated. He had no trouble sustaining an erection when he was alone. And he frequently awoke with an erection. He had no chronic illnesses, and a complete physical examination showed only that he was a very healthy man.
Jimmy wanted to believe that he had some physical problem to blame for his impotence—something that could quickly and easily be “fixed.” But in his case, anxiety was the culprit. He needed to learn to relax, to give himself permission not to have intercourse until he was ready, to feel comfortable with his partner and not withdraw from her emotionally in the event of a “failure.” Perhaps most of all, he needed to stop looking at intercourse as a test witch he would either pass or fail. To do this he had to learn to be comfortable – physically and emotionally – when close a women.
Jimmy found a sex therapist to help him. You might find that on your own you’re able to pinpoint the factors that make you stressed and overcome them.
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